Letter to a Relative Whose Wife Has Been Diagnosed With Cancer

First and foremost, I want to sympathize with the difficulty that you are going through. What a difficult time, especially after what you yourself also went through, just a short while ago, with a similar scare.

I am going to come to you from a standpoint of faith. You may know that some time back, your family and I started studying Quantum healing. I was so particularly intrigued by the concept of healing that I went further ahead and it has led me back to the Bible and its powerful healing potential. And that is what I want to talk to you about.

Before doing so however, I must mention that I’m well aware of the fact that many people have become disheartened, disillusioned and very disturbed by religion overall. Many have tried to believe and yet have never seen faith work for them and consequently end up tossing God aside assuming that He’s a “hit-and-miss” or a “on-again, off-again” god that doesn’t really answer prayer unless someone is perfect and sinless, which most of us know we fall short of.

So let’s set aside religion, because I want to introduce to you the power established in God’s Word. Having studied healing to the core, I now stand as a devoted believer, and surely do not apologize for it, seeing how so very many miracles I have witnessed in recent years.

Jesus Himself said, “It will not work for you unless you work it”. He said, “Everyone then who hears these words of mine and does them will be like aa wise man who built his house on the rock. And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house, but it did not fall, because it had been founded on the rock. And everyone who hears these words of mine and does not do them will be like a foolish man who built his house on the sand. And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell, and great was the fall of it.” (Matthew 7:24-27). 

It’s not God’s Word that is “on-again off-again”, it’s we who don’t do our part and stand on the rock. We cannot be a hearer only, we must be a doer. We don’t learn to ride a bicycle from reading a book; we’ve got to get on the bike and practice till we get it. Many folks come short of their miracle because they don’t understand that there’s a part we must do with God’s promises. They don’t come to pass on their own. We cannot just “hope” they’ll work for us. Hope doesn’t heal, faith does. There has to be a firm stance of faith.

So, let me explain to you the distinct difference between the two. Hope wishes (ever so hard) that a request will come to pass in the future, whereas faith stands firm on God’s Word as if on a rock, and considers it done and in the past. God’s will is very clear; He wants everyone to be healed; no “hit-and-miss“, no “good enough”; everyone! But we must be sure of, and be confident in His goodness, His love for us, and His will towards us.

None of us can deny the immense power that love has. By the same token, fear has an intense power on our mind and spirit. When we fear, worry, and are anxious, we actually employ the same amount of mental energy that could be used towards positive, encouraging, uplifting thoughts that would boost our faith, and give us courage, for whatever befalls us.

You may have heard of the hurdle that your uncle went through after being diagnosed with prostate cancer. When he broke the news to all of us, it landed like a ton of bricks. Everyone was not only affected, but in despair by the news. But I suggested to everyone that we should not accept this news. I explained that there is immense power given to each one of us through our thoughts and especially our words. What we speak comes to pass. Our tongue is the rudder to our destiny. If we accept defeat, we’ve already lost. But if we stand against facts, they can change. And thankfully he took a stand, has overcome and is now healthy. No trace whatsoever.

Please understand that I do not want to minimize the “facts” of the diagnosis of your wife’s cancer. And I definitely do not want to minimize the trauma, the grief, and the scare that you all are presently experiencing, you both, and the children especially . But let me carry on regarding the power of our thoughts and our words.

To put it plainly, s*** happens, and it happens to everyone. But the way we face it has a lot to do with the way it affects us and the final outcome. Our spirits are powerful and they can address any problem with faith, love, courage, strength, unity. Those are the attributes that God’s Word gives.

In fact, the power for all these attributes lies in the Word of God. As opposed to what religion may have taught us, God is a loving God, a caring Father, and you can relate to Him, because you also are parents and because you yourselves care so, and want the very best for your children.

God has promised healing to everyone, but we access His promises through faith. Faith gives us access to a higher power that is above the diagnosis of the doctor, and the “facts”, and the circumstances before our eyes. What Jesus paid for, at the whipping post and on the cross, is available to everyone. His redemptive power works not just for salvation, but for healing, deliverance and freedom. However that power of grace is dependent on, and limited to our faith. Faith, like love, is powerful. Faith imposes truth on circumstances and facts. Basically, the possible supersedes the impossible through faith. Jesus said, “With men it is impossible, but not with God: for with God all things are possible.” (Mat 19:16–26).

As odd as this may sound, circumstances are not facts, because they can change. And we can change them by imposing a greater force on them through the power of our belief system.

Faith is VOICE activated. You can’t say you believe in something and not talk about it. Believing is not static; it is an actual action that has to be not only verbalized, but walked out. God has put within each one of us the power to change circumstances through faith. Our belief system is so strong that we can come through very devastating situations such as what you’re presently faced with, through words of faith and courage, and by taking a stand against mountains of difficulties.

Check this out… Jesus explained the secret of faith in this verse. “Truly I tell you, if anyone “SAYS” (voice-activated faith) to this mountain (cancer), ‘Go, throw yourself into the sea, and does not doubt in their heart but BELIEVES that what they say will happen, it will be done for them. Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, BELIEVE that you have received it, and it will be yours.” (Mark 11:22 – 24). Notice the past tense in “believe that you have received it”. Our words “cement” our faith.

James (brother of Jesus) confirms this, saying, “But when you ask, you must believe (stand firm) and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. Let not that man think he will receive anything of the Lord.” (James 1:6). 

So, the key is to only speak “the positive outcome”. Guard your thoughts and guard your mouth to only verbalize the end result of your faith. The circumstances may not be showing the outcome yet, but your words are the seeds towards the miracle that you’re expecting. Words are “belief containers” and the seeds to a specific harvest.

Seeds are bound to reproduce only after their own kind; it’s a law established by God (Gen 1:11-13). Your harvest is a direct reflection of the seeds you sow. Your words (containers of your thoughts) command your outcome (harvest). You cannot always control all the thoughts that come through your head (although the mind can be disciplined also), but you surely can control the words that come out of your mouth.

So, you must make that law work in your favor.  Only sow the harvest that you want to get. You cannot stop the words that others may speak to you. Some may be words of grief, words of discouragement, even words of doom, or defeat, etc. You cannot stop the birds from flying over your head, but you can stop them from making a nest in your hair. In other words, you have the power to control your own thoughts, and to speak only the outcome that you desire, and stand firm on that.

Here is another law of God that works in our favor. And it’s particularly powerful in our marriages. It says, “When two or three agree together as touching anything that they shall ask, it shall be done of My Father which is in heaven.” In other words, if you and your wife were to agree and decree together that you will both go through this and come out on the other end (without the smell of smoke) and will stick together and fight together and bully the circumstances till they let up, you will see the hand of God working a miracle for you. There is great power in unity.

Please understand that I am not trying to preach “positive thinking” as the solution. It’s more than that. Faith is more powerful than positive thinking. It’s standing firm on an agreed-upon outcome, and regardless of what we hear, what we see, what the circumstances may be along the way, we stand firm, till we get the desired outcome. Faith cannot look at the waves, otherwise it sinks, because fear kicks in.

Lock yourselves in a powerful bond of love to stand firm on a positive outcome. And start rejoicing about the wonderful benefits that this difficulty will enrich you with. “Perfect love cast out all fear.”

BLESSINGS and COURAGE to you both.

“For this reason I remind you to fan into flame the gift of God, which is in you, for God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.” (2 Timothy 1:6-7).